They often refer to caring for someone with dementia as “the long, sad goodbye.” The reason being is that you are slowly losing pieces of your loved one as the disease progresses. It can be a very challenging experience and one that can take a lot out of you the caregivers. Here are a few tips to help you manage your grief while saying goodbye.
Family caregivers are this world’s unsung heroes. They’re tired, stressed, and worst of all, unpaid. There are over 15 million Alzheimer and dementia caregivers in the U.S, clocking in approximately 17.7 billion hours valued at over $200 billion. While some caregivers have receivers that do express gratitude, others have to hear constant complaining such as, “this meal is too hot” or “this chair is too hard.” There seems to be a never-ending list of discomforts.
With Alzheimer’s Awareness Month, Family Caregivers Awareness Month, and Thanksgiving all taking place around the same time, November has become the month of gratitude. These three holidays gives us a moment to reflect on how much caregivers sacrifice. As soon as their loved one is diagnosed, their life gets turned upside down. Suddenly, everyday routines may not be so feasible anymore. They must adapt to meet these new unique demands.
Caregivers’ devotion to their loved one can deeply hinder their working and social life, making it hard to find that balance. Without any help, the constant work can lead to caregiver burnout, a cluster of symptoms related to anxiety and depression. But, regardless, they keep fighting on to maintain their loved one’s well being.
This holiday season, take the time to appreciate not only your loved one but also yourself. Be realistic about your Thanksgiving plans and adapt any family traditions if necessary. If you need help, don’t hesitate to ask family or friends. The holidays are the most hectic time of year, and for a caregiver, that stress can double. This day is as much about you than anyone else, and you deserve to make the event as comfortable as possible.